If she leaves… she made the best decision, if I leave, I’m ungrateful

A controversial post by a man on X, formerly Twitter, has ignited intense debate about love, money, and perceived double standards in modern relationships.

The post, which quickly gained traction, questioned why women are often praised for choosing financial security, while men are criticised for similar decisions after becoming successful.

Many users described the statement as brutally honest, while others called it insensitive, sexist, and emotionally careless. The discussion has since divided social media users.

Post That Triggered the Conversation

The man wrote: “If she leaves me to marry a rich man that is ready to settle down..She made the best decision of her life.

“But if i make money and decide to leave her because she is no longer my taste…I am ungrateful…… lmao.”

The comment immediately sparked reactions, with people sharing personal experiences and opinions on loyalty, timing, and financial pressure in relationships.

Supporters Defend the Argument

Some users agreed with the logic behind the post, arguing that both men and women should be allowed to make choices based on their circumstances.

D_freyer wrote: “Like I always say “find yourself a good woman first” and you will never want to leave.”

Bobcrypt offered a longer view, saying:

“If a guy starts dating a girl at 21 and she’s 20, and after 10 years there’s still no marriage because he isn’t financially stable, doubts are normal,especially if both are grinding and nothing is working. At 31 and 30, it wouldn’t be shocking if the relationship ends; that’s just reality tbh.

“If money later comes and they had a mutual, respectful breakup, and she hasn’t moved on, I don’t see an issue with reconnecting. But if she left quickly or moved to another guy, then both should move on.

“My point is simple tho. if it’s acceptable for a woman to leave a man for financial stability, it shouldn’t be wrong for a man to choose differently once he becomes successful.”

Ahmed took a lighter approach, writing: “Wahala for who get time for “if she, if he”. My brother Chinedu and I are thinking about how to get the next customer locked in.”

Critics Slam the Mindset

Others strongly criticised the post, describing it as shallow and harmful to healthy relationships.

StoryTime wrote: “Women want a fool. If it were up to them, every man would be drooling and have an iq of 16. They want to eat their cake and always have it.”

Amaka responded angrily, saying: “But it’s true, which one is ‘she is no longer your taste’? You lack discipline and the only reason why you stayed was because you were poor and lacked confidence, dumb whore.”

Adekanmbi added a calmer perspective, writing: “Even me as a man I accept this fact. Woman are created to b protected and choose what they want. Why will you make it and leave a woman u had something with not right.”