Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo Questions Bachelors Over 30 Who Say They’re Not Ready for Marriage

Nigerian clergyman and relationship coach, Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo, has stirred a lively online debate after posing a direct question to men above 30 who claim they are not ready for marriage despite having a stable source of income.

In a post shared on his official X (formerly Twitter) handle, the popular preacher questioned the rationale behind such statements from eligible bachelors.

“When a man that has a job and is above 30 says he’s not ready for marriage what does he mean?” he asked.

The post quickly gained traction, attracting a flurry of responses from users who offered a range of perspectives. Some argued that financial stability alone does not equate to emotional readiness or maturity for marriage.

Others noted that societal pressures often overlook the importance of mental preparedness, personal goals, or past trauma that may make some men delay marital commitments.

Critics of the post suggested that the question oversimplifies the complexities of modern relationships, while supporters praised the clergyman for sparking an important conversation around delayed marriages among Nigerian men.

Pastor Kingsley, who is well known for his teachings on relationships and godly courtship, has often encouraged early and purposeful marriages based on compatibility and readiness rather than societal expectations.

As the debate continues online, the post has reignited long-standing conversations on the expectations placed on men regarding marriage, age, and financial responsibility.